Suspect O (Ev 23)
Readers, I am back. I know it has been a while. The Ogre has been out of my life for a few years now. I still think about him, worrying in case I bump into him, either randomly, or pre-planned by him. I remember the threats to hurt me. Sometimes, I have nightmares – of…
New Suspect – MTU: My Treacherous Uncle (Ev 22)
The Ogre must have had many discussions with his mum about the possibility that I may escape his misogynistic, selfish, narcissistic clutches soon. That I had finally managed to stand up to his threats and with the help of my sister, found a financial backing that could get me that freedom that had only ever…
Suspect O (Ev 21)
I first sat down to tell my ex-husband I wanted a divorce after five years of being trapped in a sexless and loveless marriage. I remember we sat on a little round table and had the discussion. I explained we were very different, we wanted different things and I wasn’t happy. He said he wasn’t…
Suspect BP (Ev 20)
It is never easy to tell Asian parents that you want a divorce. But in my case, the Ogre hadn’t exactly been subtle in his level of selfish, unpleasant and aggressive behaviour over the years. He used the marriage as a means of free accommodation, free bills, free cars, free phones, free holidays, free cooked…
Suspect O (Ev 19)
I remember when my beautiful baby sister was about 16, I was staying for a night at my parents’ house. The Ogre never liked me staying a night away, for who would cook and serve him whilst I was gone? Who could he exert his control over? However, under the condition that I would return…
Suspect DDM (Ev 18)
About five years into my marriage, I had gone to India and swapped rooms with my mother-in-law (I had started looking forward to this ‘me time’, when she came into my bedroom. She sat at the foot of my bed and said she had spoken to a specialist about ‘my problem’, implying my vaginismus. She…
Suspect O (Evidence 17)
The Ogre was never a supportive partner. He was extremely narcissistic and only interested in talking about himself. Some of this is cultural – I have seen many men from the same background (now that I am aware of the trait) who manage to turn every conversation to themselves. So, if you say, ‘I just…
Suspect BP (Ev 16)
Let’s go back to the disaster that was my wedding. Have you ever felt like all the blood has been drained from your body? Well, I certainly did many times during that awful period of my life. As I was paying for my wedding (no one in my family had any money due to reasons…
Suspect BS (Ev 15)
So, after a few years of working myself to a state of near death, having no money to show for it, paying all my bills, and my parents’ bills, like a responsible adult, despite not having five pounds left at the end of the month, in a severely unhappy marriage and knowing that I will…
Suspect O (Ev 14)
My parents never bought a house and we spent the first 18 years of my life moving home to home so by the time I took over the rent, I knew that domestic stability was the most important purpose of my life. And I became so fixated that I worked three jobs and ended up…
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